(PDF DOWNLOAD) [What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing]

Taking it into account and should therefore berate themselves less Unfortunately I found a number of flaws with this book First the author made generalizations about how a mother should or is expected to feel toward her child without giving how a mother should or is expected to feel toward her child without giving allowance to mothers who may feel differently Second the author explicitly says that her book is not a prescription of what mothers should do but rather a description of what mothers do yet she repeatedly offers her precise ideas of what good mothering entails take sleep training for example Third the author seems to completely disregard outside influences or other social and structural influences or restraints when it comes to childrearing she even states that it is the mother s fault when a child acts out because the mother didn t attend to his needs uickly enough when he was younger I certainly appreciate Stadlen s attempt to materialize the overlooked and invisible value of the relationship between mother and child 126 and challenge the consistent denigration of genuine mothering 294 yet I ask what is genuine mothering but this book leaves much to be desired This is the perfect book for mothers of young babies Reading it is like having someone give you a hug and reassure you that what you do all day is valid and important The author runs discussion groups for mothers and comments from mothers who attend the groups are regularly uoted throughout the book This means the book feels a bit like being a fly on the wall at one of their meetings which is really helpful when many new mothers don t have opportunities to talk about their experience with other mothers I m sure that any parent of a young baby will be able to relate to at least some of the mothers whose words are included in the book One of the most powerful bits of the book for me was about the language used to describe mothering The author describes the way a mother might notice something seems wro I liked this a lot There is the mothering is the most important work platitude and then there is the you should really be using your degreeyou are ust a SAHMyou must not be a feminist that you get from people And sometimes you get them from the same person It could give one whiplash This book is a great way to center yourself and realize what you are doing that it is transient and necessary and that it has value beyond the platitudes This book is slanted toward the Attachment Parenting spectrum but is very careful to not insult mothers with other parenting techniues I can see it possibly upsetting a mother who has to work outside the home but who doesn t want to particularly as it is written from a UK perspective and assumes a full year of maternity leave I think it is well done but I wouldn t want it to sideswipe someone who is already upset about that I Didn T Learn didn t learn lot from this book I m in the trenches so I get it Props to the author for spelling it out for those who think parenting means watching soaps and eating bon bons while Jr plays uietly in the background Here s a summary of a day in the life read this and save yourself from reading the bookIt begins with the sacrifice of your body The little miracle grows inside of you swelling your boobs butt and belly to epic proportions Some Clojure In Action jerk will ask if you are expecting twins you aren t and you smile and say Triplets actually or I m not pregnant Iust like beer Then the birthing comes Beautiful my ass You push out turds you yell you sweat The pain is gone the minute you place eyes onto this child slimy wrinkled creature alien and beautiful Adoptive parents you suffer thru your own labor worrying about paperwork and biological parents The first six months are hell Granted there is magic in those little feet and hands and watching that baby develop but it s tough You are exhausted due to baby sleeping patterns If you breast feed you are like a cow at the county fair Step Right UP See

The Amazing Milk Machine 
amazing milk machine boobs out all the time for the little lamprey said with affection in case one misses my sarcasm oh diapers As soon as you change it your senses are attacked hmm I smell poop AGAIN I hear a rumble AHHHH He grows and gets mobile you worry about him amming forks into electric outlets putting god awful things into his mouth and knocking over furniture onto himself It takes you an hour to walk around the block as you ar. Her mothers of a wide variety of ages and backgrounds She explores mothers' experienc. What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like NothingE explaining drains sewers and fire hydrants then you play in the sandbox making castles and roads you make snacks CONSTANTLY You learn that cheerios and milk make an amazingly tough paste Then you try to keep him occupied while you clean and make dinner only to find he s figured out how to open the shampoo bottle how did he get to that and poured the contents onto the floor rubbing his hands and feet in the slippery mess in a bizarre form of toddler art As you clean that you see an old sippy cup under the couch so old whatever liuid was in it has become solid At this point there has been a diaper blow out aka shit explosion potty training has not been too successful yet although your little angel has figured out how to flush the toilet regrettably he used your watch as a substitute for his turds so you get that cleaned up and smell something burning Damn Dinner You race to the kitchen to find your toddler has figured out how to pull a chair to the desk and open a pen artistic genius scribbled on papers for work bills himself and if you are not so lucky the floorwalls You give the sweetie a bath and it dawns on you you ve missed your shower this morning because he peed thru his pj s and you were changing and washing bedding you dress the child for the 12th time that day when the Jehovah s witnesses come to the door They see the child and ask do you work or stay at home You dismember the bodies in the basement and uietly bury them beneath the swing set that night I won t go into the after school running around for last minute science projects and sporting events musical instruments accidentally run over by the car teaching them how to ride a bike and throw a ball and repair a window calming a child after a fight with a friend or first heartbreak teaching them to drive and busting them sneaking out in the middle of the nightIt is a rich wonderful thing being a parent Who knew the heart could hold so much love If you are lucky someday you child will understand everything you have done and sincerely say thank youGo call your moms As a new mother this book saved my mental health in the early days of my baby s lifeIt is not a parenting guide or how to book The author doesn t ascribe to or recommend any philosophy of parenting This book very elegantly describes the shock and frustrating experiences of mothers and delineates through snippets of interviews with mothers all the various types of work that mothers do 24 hours a dayHer definitions of a mother s work include learning about listening to her baby the ability to be constantly interruptable the socializing of her baby her worryI highly recommend this book to any new mother who is struggling with her transition into motherhood It will give even meaning to what you are doing as a mother even if it feels like you are not ever Getting Anything Done This anything done This does a beautiful ob of allowing us to examine what it is mothers especially stay at home mothers do all day and than that to name and honor those things It can be very easy to feel like you re not getting anything done when in fact you are working hard all day at arguably the most important ob there is Stadlen shows how the typical ways we measure success and efficiency and accomplishment cannot be applied to the work of the stay at home parent and offers other ways to understand what SAHMs do She
Has A Lovely Folkloric 
a lovely folkloric narrative approach that is appropriate to her thesis The book for the most part would apply to fathers too especially those who stay home with their babies as my husband did for a year My only criticism so far is that the book can get a little touchy feely I m ok you re ok but I suppose it s better to err on the side of gentleness when your audience is sleep deprived and hormone wired This was a good book to read piecemeal when I was rocking Max It helped me reflect on my experience of motherhood and I liked looking at my current mindset from a larger cultural perspective What is it that mothers do It s hard to explain but there s a lot to it and mothers are not given enough credit I appreciated the way Stadlen explored the shifting of relationships and personal identity of new moms she helped me to see that all of the little things I do with Max are way important than any outwardly noticeable things I am getting done or at least trying to get done. Es to reveal what they and you are doing when it may look to everyone else like nothi.

Summary Ì eBook, PDF or Kindle ePUB ✓ Naomi Stadlen

This is the best parenting book i have ever READ IT IS UNIUE IN THAT THE AUTHOR DOESN it is uniue in that the author doesn tell you what you should do instead the book is all about the things mothers do that freuently do not even have an adeuate vocabulary to describe them it is you are probably already doing this to some degree and i am ust writing it downthis book not only hit upon many thoughts i had been having it hit on upon thoughts i hadn t even begun to think it was like she looked inside me and wrote a book about everything i have felt and thought since my son was born i have even been keeping a list of some of the passages that speak to me it has chapter titles like nothing prepares you and So tired i could die the basic premise of the book is that mothers do all these things that we don t even really have words to express she makes a point in the first chapter that we have a litany of words to describe the things mothers do wrong but very few for what moms do right the example she gives is we have the words negligent and over protective but no word for protecting her child in the right amount she goes on to have chapters about being instantly interruptible and motherly love and the power of comfort and the feeling that you didn t do anything all day but you did the book wraps up with chapters on a new mom s relationship with her husband and another about her relationship with her own mother the woman who wrote it is english so the vocabulary is a little different but you get used to it nappiesdiapers mummom cotcrib chemistpharmacist etcnot only do i highly recommend this book for all moms this is the kind of book i think young men and women should be reading in highschool and college it was so good as soon as i finished it i a cried and b wanted to re read it again right then My wife is pregnant so we ve been looking around for things to read and other ways to learn about parenting This book was suggested by a friend of mine who is also a father though he strongly warned me that I might find it very sexistI understand what he means now but it is also much worse While there are some wonderful uotes from new mothers on those shortly this book is mostly a minefield for any new mother s confidence Stadlen slyly but constantly pushes the agenda that the only good mother is one who stays at home with her kids all while constantly claiming that she only describes mothers experiences and does not prescribe how to be a good mother I don t know if my wife will stay at home like this she hasn t decided yet but we certainly want honest analysis to help us make a good decision not political manipulationFor example in the chapter on what is motherly love Stadlen argues that a good mother would never have bad feelings towards their child and she names and shames many others who write about feeling feelings towards their child and she names and shames many others who write about feeling way Other chapters are similarly slanted while overtly claiming not to be especially in the second half of the bookThe good moments I mentioned This book does have a lot of uotes from mothers interspersed amongst the text and the chapter headings categorise them nicely They make the point that mothering is unexpectedly hard often in invisible ways I think that s a good point and I m glad they come through despite the author s commentary To summarise What Mother s Do is a dangerous book read it for the uotes if you must but open your eyes before you start This should be a book that all mothers read It gives so much validation that when we sit around with our babies and young children we are actually doing very exhausting work I can t say enough good about it It shows gentleness and respect for all mothers regardless of how they choose to parent It also addresses how we communicate with each other and which ways are helpful and which ways are counter productive I think I ll try to get several copies and then give to mothers when a baby is born I found the goal of this book to articulate what mothers do when it may appear to outsiders that they do little to nothing very admirable and largely well done I think that this is an important book for vocalizing what mothers particularly mothers of infants and young children for this book does not deal with mothering over a lifetime do for it offers reassurance to mothers who feel as though they get nothing done all day that they are doing a great deal of mothering without. In this look at mothering Naomi Stadlen draws on many years' work with hundreds of ot.


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    (PDF DOWNLOAD) [What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing] I didn't learn a lot from this book I'm in the trenches so I get it Props to the author for spelling it out for those who think parenting means watching soaps and eating bon bons while Jr plays uietly in the background Here's a summary of a day in the life read this and save yourself from reading the bookIt begins with the sacrifice of your body The little miracle grows inside of you swelling your boobs butt and belly

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    (PDF DOWNLOAD) [What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing] Naomi Stadlen ✓ 7 Read Read What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing I found the goal of this book to articulate what mothers do when it may appear to outsiders that they do little to nothin

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    (PDF DOWNLOAD) [What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing] Naomi Stadlen ✓ 7 Read this is the best parenting book i have ever read it is uniue in that the author doesn't tell you what you should do instead the book is all about the things mothers do that freuently do not even have an adeuate vocabulary to describe them it is you are probably already doing this to some degree and i am just writing it downthis book not onl

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    (PDF DOWNLOAD) [What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing] Naomi Stadlen ✓ 7 Read Read What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing As a new mother this book saved my mental health in the early days of my baby's lifeIt is not a parenting guide or how to book The author doesn't ascribe to or recommend any philosophy of parenting This book very elegantly describes the shock and frustrating experiences of mothers and delineates through snippets of interviews with mothers all

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    (PDF DOWNLOAD) [What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing] This is the perfect book for mothers of young babies Reading it is like having someone give you a hug and reassure you that what you do all day is valid and important The author runs discussion groups for mother

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    Naomi Stadlen ✓ 7 Read Summary Ì eBook, PDF or Kindle ePUB ✓ Naomi Stadlen Read What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing My wife is pregnant so we've been looking around for things to read and other ways to learn about parenting This book was su

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    (PDF DOWNLOAD) [What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing] Naomi Stadlen ✓ 7 Read Summary Ì eBook, PDF or Kindle ePUB ✓ Naomi Stadlen This book does a beautiful job of allowing us to examine what it is mothers especially stay at home mothers do all day and than that to name and honor those things It can be very easy to feel like you're not getting anything done when in fact you are working hard all day at arguably the most important job there is Stadlen shows how the typi

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    Naomi Stadlen ✓ 7 Read (PDF DOWNLOAD) [What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing] I liked this a lot There is the mothering is the most important work platitude and then there is the you should really be using your degreeyou are just a SAHMyou must not be a feminist that you get from people And sometimes you get them from the same person It could give one whiplash This book is a great way to center yourself and realize what you are doing that it is transient and necessary and that it has value beyond the plati

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    Naomi Stadlen ✓ 7 Read Summary Ì eBook, PDF or Kindle ePUB ✓ Naomi Stadlen (PDF DOWNLOAD) [What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing] This should be a book that all mothers read It gives so much validation that when we sit around with our babies and young children we are actually doing very exhausting work I can't say enough good about it It shows gentleness and respect for all mothers regardless of how they choose to parent It also addresses how we communicate with each other and which ways are helpful and which ways are counter productive I think I

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    Read What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing Naomi Stadlen ✓ 7 Read Summary Ì eBook, PDF or Kindle ePUB ✓ Naomi Stadlen This was a good book to read piecemeal when I was rocking Max It helped me reflect on my experience of motherhood and I liked looking at my c

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